They mark a dramatic shift from the position of Francis’ predecessors in the Vatican, who have taken the view that making annulments easier would be to encourage divorce and soften the Church’s teaching that marriage is for life.
I realized that if he walked into our house now, he would have a hard time identifying anything that was “his.” Without the pictures of the boys, he would not even realize this was our house.
Dating soon after divorce or annulment or getting into a relationship too soon after my husband left suddenly would not have been right, but I did enjoy getting on some of those dating sites, especially the faith-based sites.
Just as there are those who criticize me for not dating sooner, there are those who might criticize me for getting on those dating sites too quickly, but in many ways, reading the forums, scanning the message boards and reaching out to others gave me hope, but it also provided temptation before I was strong enough, before I was ready. My house was more respectable than it had been (although with 5 boys, I don’t know that it will ever be as tidy as I’d wish it to be! I’d gotten a new (used) car that I was happy with and proud of.
The divorce rate is anywhere from 50 percent for first marriages to 80 percent for subsequent marriages.
Perhaps, as a result, more and more couples are choosing to live together without bothering to get married.