Somewhat surprisingly, a lot of women have never bothered to get the facts about their own fertility, and largely work under the mindset that if she’s in great shape, her ovaries should be, too. “Make partner by 40, then start dating, get married, and have kids.” They’re often shocked to find out that they waited just a little too long to pull it off. The bottom line for women, in my view, is: plan to have your last child by the time you turn 40.A new article from The Atlantic sheds some light on the real statistical odds of getting pregnant, which is both hopeful and sobering: “The data, imperfect as they are, suggest two conclusions. Beyond that, you’re rolling the dice, though they may still come up in your favor.” “With sex at least twice a week, 82 percent of 35-to-39-year-old women conceive within a year, compared with 86 percent of 27-to-34-year-olds.A study headed by Anne Steiner, an associate professor at the University of North Carolina School of Medicine, the results of which were presented in June, found that among 38- and 39-year-olds who had been pregnant before, 80 percent of white women of normal weight got pregnant naturally within six months (although that percentage was lower among other races and among the overweight). And if you want to be married, you have to start taking your love life seriously at a younger age. When you date in earnest in your early 30’s, it gives you time to date, make mistakes, learn, and fall in love by 35, so that you can marry at 36 and start trying for kids at 37.“In our data, we’re not seeing huge drops until age 40,” she told me. Sadly, I almost never get clients who are younger than 35.
The definition of empathy is “the power of understanding and imaginatively entering into another person’s feelings.
People ask me all the time whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men. But I tell them that I help men by helping women who are dating after 40. ) One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men.
Just like women, the men you’re dating have lived and learned.
So the only way you really can empathize is to know their side of the story.
Men and women are different in many ways, but we’re more the same than you may think. We all have dating disappointments and horror stories.